Tuesday, September 27, 2005
gonna talk abt sth mainly concerning the malays again.
haha. hope this doesnt make ppl think i haf a prob
wif my own community.
hey, although i'm chi/ind but my ic still states malay
and i am proud to be one.
if it helps, i'm, gonna touch on my family too.
Minister Mentor (tt's a first) LKY said tt malays shouldnt
marry so early.
and he has de facts to prove it.
true, young Malay couples have the highest divorce rates.
which brings me to a question.
our grandparents married young too.
so why are most of them still together til death do they part?
singapore without doubt is one of the most expensive places
to have, and raise a family.
which is also why i think the more than 2 child policy now
isnt gonna be tt popular.
secondly, which is somewhat linked to de first point,
most people who marry young are no highly educated
and fall under the low income family category.
money is the root of all evil, they say.
can make and break ppl up.
third, our grandparents have a very short courtship
or even none at all (ie. matchmaking>
ala-dharma-and-greg, maybe the love aft marriage thing
does work aft all.
lastly, and this maybe a controversial point tt i am making.
sorry if i will offend anyone.
a lot of couple at tt age marry to avoid shame
in other words, out of wedlock.
and malays, do care a lot abt "air muka"
thus, parents rush to marry the couple off when they made a
mistake.
without sufficient preparation - mentally, physically
spiritually.
i covered abt money oreadi.
and dun we all think tt u must be spiritually prepared
to start a family?
esp guys. to take on the responsibility of the man of de house
is definitely not an easy ask.
and physically, they are used to a carefree life.
go ou with frens. dress to impress.
unless they wanna bring a baby clubbing,
then automatically they have to adapt to having
a baby as their accessory instead of the coolest handphones
and the preetiest handbags.
and to be someone's wife or husband...
is to belong to the other half forever.
that realisation can cos many to run away.
if i painted a scary pic, i am sorrie.
but i see too many of such couples.
i do hope tt they'd build very happy families.
but unless u are totally ready, pls dun jump into marriage.
let's honour the sayin of "a marriage last a lifetime".
i pray for everyone i noe and dun, tt it'll be like tt
for all of u.
on 2nd thots, i'll write abt the family tmr.
Nur'ain wrote at 11:55 PM |
